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Texas_Wildlife Rank: Super Veteran
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Posted: Mon Dec 07, 2009 5:01 pm Post subject: ( Dad Commited Suicide )| Trying to heal |
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My life is starting to unravel , and I can't stop it.
About a month ago my 15year old sister tried to commit suicide. She had swallowed several bottles of prescription drug and aspirins. She had taken then the night before, the next day my mother found her in bed covered in vomit. I rush over, I found my mom in the hallway with my sister limp body; mom had tried to get her into the shower to try and wake her up. I’m not a doctor but I’ve had many friends overdose and I could tell she had taken something; she couldn’t speak or make eye contact and the vomit smelled like chemicals. I rushed to her room and found the empty bottles. I screamed to my mom to call 911, she was in shock and couldn’t move so I did everything. Called for an ambulance, gathered the empty bottles so the doctors would know what she took , and searched for a suicide note. The ambulance came quickly and they said it was me who saved her. She had taken a rare prescription med that would have killed her if doctors had not known to treat of it. She alive today, she has some kidney problems now ; but she will be fine soon with therapy and the right treatments
Now it’s happening again. But this time, I can’t do a fucking thing.
This afternoon my father wrote me and my family a suicide note. In it he says he loves our family and he wanted us to know that it wasn’t anything the rest of my family did and no one is to blame. He also said not to call the police or family members to try and stop him. I got in my car and checked every place I could think to look for him, and called every number I could find ; I found nothing and no one knows where he is. My mother has gone to check our lake house to see if he went there but she has ordered me to watch after my sister. So here I am in front of my computer and completely powerless and useless. All I can do to help is sit on my ass and hope someone calls. I’m going insane trying to resist the urge to get in my car and keep looking, I broke into his computer and started searching for answers. He’s visited several bipolar mania sites , but I was unaware that he had such a condition; again I know the symptoms but I this time I fucked up and disregarded them until it was too late.
So now I have saved a life, but possibly lost the other one.
I understand why they are doing these things but it doesn’t brink me any comfort or make it any easier. My body feels num. I try not to think about the subject in negative terms, but it’s eating away at me. I don’t know why I’m sharing this with everyone here, it’s not my intention to be this depressing; I just need to share my pain so I don’t keep it locked inside. People around me are trying to kill themselves and I can help but think “is it my fault”
If Vanessa or Ronald wishes me to remove this thread, I will do so without hesitation. All you need to do is ask.
I'm studying physiology and my mind can rationalize just about anything ; but its getting to personal an my emotions are effecting my thinking.
Please don't think this is a cry for help , I just want someone to listen and actually respond . I lost my ability to rationalize these events and I could really use some guidance. I'm probably gonna need to take therapy sessions when this is all over, but its always helpful to seek support from several people.
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............December 8th 2009.................................
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They found my dad at 1 a.m ..................hes dead
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............December 9th 2009............................
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We had to make the funeral arrangements to day.
Headstone, burial site , casket, floral arrangements , ect.
I'm going to be one of the pallbearers.
It was a pretty rough experience . Unfortunately, it that wasn't the worst of it.
A fight broke out between both sides of my family, each side wanted to control the decision making; my fathers relatives (grandparents are dead) wanted to bury him in Oklahoma,
but my family wanted him to stay close so we could visit the grave more often.
My mom was overwhelmed by several hateful calls and text messages. she barely got through the day.
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............December 10th 2009............................
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Visitation ( see my dads body before the funeral)
First time I've seen my dad since Monday.
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............December 11th 2009............................
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The funeral is set for Friday December 11th 2009. At Noon _________________ Dallas"Wildcat"Swagger--->Fursona
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Posted: Mon Dec 07, 2009 5:36 pm Post subject: |
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If there's nothing you can do, don't do anything. I can't help you and I hope nothing bad happens.
Sorry _________________
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Leaf Royal Member of BonBon
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Posted: Mon Dec 07, 2009 5:53 pm Post subject: |
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... I'm so sorry to hear this, Tex.
We'll all be here to help you through this, no matter what. _________________ My Fursona
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Posted: Mon Dec 07, 2009 6:24 pm Post subject: |
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Aaron_Thom wrote: | I'm sorry to hear this about your father and sister. I hope and pray to God you're father will be found. I'll keep you and your family in my preyers tonight. I wish I could help you. |
Thank you
, praying is all I can do at this point. I hope its enough.
dragonfly wrote: | im the same tex i do wish so very much i could help u.
i sort of went though the same thing 2 years ago but in a diffent way but i would rather not speak about it as i dont want to upset u as much as u are now. |
I know I sound like a terrible person for saying this , but Its comforting to known I'm not alone. I've had several friend pass on in recent years , but 2 family members in 1month is hard to stomach.
Leaf wrote: | ... I'm so sorry to hear this, Tex.
We'll all be here to help you through this, no matter what.
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Thats the nicest thing anything anyone has said to me sense all of this started (including RL)Thank you for that. You are one of kindest guys here . _________________ Dallas"Wildcat"Swagger--->Fursona |
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Posted: Mon Dec 07, 2009 6:34 pm Post subject: |
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*Dabbs eyes with tissue* Zat iz zo zad. *Sniffles* I actually 'ave zeveral friendz in zimilar pozitionz az yourzelf and actually can zympathize wiz you. I will be glad to poztpone ze wedding until your life can zettle down mon amour
-Yours Truly, Loretta xoxo _________________ Loretta- The Painter
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Posted: Mon Dec 07, 2009 6:38 pm Post subject: |
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grllover23 wrote: | *Dabbs eyes with tissue* Zat iz zo zad. *Sniffles* I actually 'ave zeveral friendz in zimilar pozitionz az yourzelf and actually can zympathize wiz you. I will be glad to poztpone ze wedding until your life can zettle down mon amour
-Yours Truly, Loretta xoxo |
*hug* Thank you (I'll talk to you on our thread) _________________ Dallas"Wildcat"Swagger--->Fursona |
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Posted: Mon Dec 07, 2009 7:09 pm Post subject: |
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Sorry... hope everythings be ok again. _________________ My Fursona http://forums.pleasurebonbon.com/forums/viewtopic.php?p=100410#100410
How dare they use casment window designs,
it's so last century ಠ_ರೃ
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Shadow_Twisted Royal Member of BonBon
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Posted: Mon Dec 07, 2009 7:30 pm Post subject: |
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It is never easy to accept the actions of our parents if we view them as weak or immature, yet it happens. My wife has lost both of her biological parents to drunk driving, her father when she was around 10 and just recently, her mother. |
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Caroline Royal Member of BonBon
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Posted: Mon Dec 07, 2009 7:52 pm Post subject: |
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((Well, Texas, my compassion tends to come off very... sandpapery... but... here goes.
I'm going to tell you something I had to tell Bean once...you can't save everyone. You can only do what you can do, and you have to accept that. You can't save everyone. Shoot, even the Son of the Almighty couldn't save everyone. So... do what you can, for those who you can do it for.
I hope that helps some.)) |
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Posted: Mon Dec 07, 2009 9:29 pm Post subject: |
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Im sorry to hear about what happened to your father and sisster. Bu,t from what happened with them and the subject you are takeing. I advise on keeping check of your own mental health when posible. Statisticly therapists have the highest suicide rate of all profetions. Also seens your father and sister attemped it, You may want to have your self checked as well for eny thing hereditary that may lead to it as well. |
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Posted: Mon Dec 07, 2009 10:17 pm Post subject: |
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They found my Dad . Hes dead _________________ Dallas"Wildcat"Swagger--->Fursona
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Posted: Mon Dec 07, 2009 10:23 pm Post subject: |
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Tex, man, Im beyond words. I cant express how sorry I am for you and your families loss.
Its been said already, but were always here to help you if you need to talk. _________________ Ewan's Golden Glass
Fine Alcohol and Good Times
Who the hell is Ewan Bushmill?
A reference: http://forums.pleasurebonbon.com/forums/viewtopic.php?t=7319 |
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I am truely sorry for your loss, Tex. If you need to talk to someone who's been where you are now, or if you need a sympathetic (non sexual) man-hug, you can always find me here. One thing I will say: It's not going to be easy and it will take time, but things will get better. _________________ I like old jokes. With them I know when to laugh. |
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Holy... My god man... Its scary and just depressing to hear these things, but as Leaf and Aaron said, we're here for you. *hugs so tightly* Be strong lad. There is always hope in this world, don'cha know.
-Elizabeth. _________________ I'm not dead, just.... Hibernating. ON the MOON. :3 Luna's bum. |
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Posted: Tue Dec 08, 2009 6:39 am Post subject: |
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I'm not sure, what I'm suppose to do here now.
Do I need to leave PPB?
Or can I just keep posting? (I want to stay, but I'm not sure its the right decision anymore) _________________ Dallas"Wildcat"Swagger--->Fursona |
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Posted: Tue Dec 08, 2009 6:57 am Post subject: |
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I'm not good at giving out advice, but here goes:
I would suggest taking a break from this place for today. That is all I can say at this moment. _________________ My Fursona
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My best advice is to take a week off to take care of what needs to be done, trust me, there's a lot you'll need to do. If, at any point, though you feel you need to vent some of it, feel free to come back and post it all out. It won't be easy, but in time you will learn to cope. |
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Leaf wrote: | I'm not good at giving out advice, but here goes:
I would suggest taking a break from this place for today. That is all I can say at this moment. |
Shadow_Twisted wrote: | My best advice is to take a week off to take care of what needs to be done, trust me, there's a lot you'll need to do. If, at any point, though you feel you need to vent some of it, feel free to come back and post it all out. It won't be easy, but in time you will learn to cope. |
^_^ that's probably a good idea right now, I need to make a few arrangements wit my professors; hopefully they will be understanding. The phone hasn't stopped ring since this morning, I'm like a receptionist now ^_^
I need to stay positive right now ^_^
I'm pretty good at coping so I'll be fine , I just need to look after sister and mother. They were hit pretty hard by this, I stayed with them till they fell asleep at 5am this morning. I haven't been able to sleep.
I don't want to fall off the PPB forums forever so I'm gonna drop in when ever I can. I hope people aren't ashamed of me for it. This forum is good at relieving my stress and its also a supportive place to vent. ^_^ _________________ Dallas"Wildcat"Swagger--->Fursona |
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(Im making these jokes and smile faces to keep myself from crying while write these posts) _________________ Dallas"Wildcat"Swagger--->Fursona |
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Just look after yourself man, real sorry about how it turned out _________________
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No one would ever think less of you for doing whatever you feel you must do. Life is unplanned and sometimes without mercy, we cannot expect you to be prepared for something that cannot be prepared for. Nor would it be wise for any of us to think we should come before your family. Personal crises are a matter we are ill-equipped to rectify, so focus now on the tasks at hand, and we will be here when you are ready to return. |
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Erf... I can't do much more than offer my condolenceses. Just focus on day to day, and take care of your mom and sister there. :/ _________________ http://harmlesslion.com |
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Posted: Wed Dec 09, 2009 1:08 am Post subject: |
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we finally have a set funeral date, December 11th 2009 _________________ Dallas"Wildcat"Swagger--->Fursona |
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I am at a lose for words... All i can offer are my condolenceses. _________________ yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. that's why it is called the present.
quoted by master Oogway off kong fu panda
Some weep, some cry, some make couches fly. - Katmir
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I'm very sorry to hear this. You have my deepest sympathy and I hope that things get better for you. |
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I just hope the funeral passes quickly for you. It was hardest on us knowing that one uncle was in Costa Rica with no way to contact him, meaning we had to wait two weeks before the funeral could be held. And after we had thought we'd recover, we had to break the news yet again, and it was difficult. The funeral will be hardest, as it cements the fact into reality. Then, slowly, it will get better. |
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